I Tried To Make Friends On Bumble and It Went Terrible

I have like five friends. Okay that’s not true, I have like five friends that are local that I see outside of work. Most of my friends since I graduated college have moved to other states or just other areas of my state so I don’t see them a lot. To be perfectly honest, most of my friends I have met at work or still work with me. One of my best friends is my roommate and coworker so in a lot of ways we don’t hang out, we just are around each other 24/7.

I figured it was time to broaden my friendship horizons. Since I am no longer in college, it frankly isn’t as easy to just make friends. I’m going to the same job every day and I clearly do not have club meetings where I can meet new friends. So how do I make friends?

Turn to a dating app of course!

Bumble is a dating app I have very noncommittally because I don’t like having to send the first message, it stresses me out. So an app where I have to talk to the men first isn’t my favorite. I guess the idea is it is supposed to be designed with a more female driven audience and puts women in control. In the attempt to appeal to the millennial woman, Bumble has a BFF section. It is the exact same concept as all the other dating apps. Swipe on someone you find appealing and hope its a match and then hope they answer you. I decided this was how I was going to make friends.


Since it should not matter what my friends look like, I blindly swiped right on everyone. I learned Bumble does not have a limit on right swipes, at least in the BFF section, so I only swiped until my thumb got tired. Out of all my swiping, I didn’t get any matches. I was shook. I became aware that this is probably what men feel like on dating apps. Swiping for hours with no results. I’ll admit, it was disheartening. Still doesn’t give guys the right to be douches but I can kind of see the frustration.

About an hour later I received one match. I was very excited but didn’t want to seem too eager, plus it was time for me to use the sleep.


I woke up to one new friend and a notification that if I paid for Bumble, I could see the two people interested in becoming friends with me that I hadn’t swiped blindly on. It’s a no from me, I’m not paying to take the mystery out of this. Around ten am, I got another two matches. I was over the moon because maybe I could finally make friends.

I ended up talking to two girls on this day. While I was talking to both of them, I became very aware that I do not know how to talk to girls. I also don’t know how to talk on these apps to people who are just friends, not potential partners. It was frankly a really weird middle ground to try to reach.

One girl and I talked about wine but then the conversation died.

Another asked me a lot about my job which led me to be stressed out.

Since it is still Bumble, you only have 24 hours to send a message or the match goes away. I accidentally let two matches expire because I suck.


I woke up and tried to do a bunch more swiping to try to still make friends. Swiped for a long time and again, no immediate matches. The day was busy for me at work so I did not try to talk to anyone. I got some more matches which was nice. Then proceeded to let all of those matches expire because again, I suck. I did more swiping to try to make up for it and RAN OUT OF PEOPLE!

Running out of people was a clear sign that my experiment was over. Since then, I haven’t had any other friend matches. I guess it wasn’t meant to be, having friend’s nearby and outside of work. Oh well.

I Sent the First Message to All My Tinder Matches and It Went Surprisingly Okay

September 3 at 5:50 pm is the exact moment I decided to make my life hell for 24 hours. So I have been a member of the sex dating app Tinder on and off since I was a sophomore in college which is about four years, give or take. I have had zero lasting success in the time I’ve been trapped in the hellscape of online dating. I’ve been feeling bored, I want a change and since Tinder isn’t changing how it operates any time soon, I had to take matters into my own hands.

I decided to send the first message to all the men I’m currently matched with.

This includes men I’ve swiped right on drunk, on accident, or when I just really hated myself. I’m sure you’re wondering how many men was I going to send a message to.

137 MEN!!!!!!!

That’s a lot of fuckboys for me to talk to in 24 hours. Do I hate myself right now? Yes. Am I already regretting this decision? Absolutely. I’m doing it though. I mean as I’m writing this its already been done so there is no turning back now.

The rules are as follows:

  1. No unmatching people I didn’t want to message
  2. No unmatching period so I can see how many men unmatch me for sending the first message
  3. I must answer every man that messages me back
  4. This experiment has to go till 6:00pm on September 4th

So what to send to get the highest amount of responses? Honestly I picked the standard “Hey!!!” because I’m a girl so I don’t honestly have to try that hard for men to answer lets be real here and it’s very easy to copy and paste to send to all my future suitors.


I have received responses from 15 men. No one has unmatched me yet. So I guess we’re doing good. One poor bastard is very confused how we matched since hes currently 222 miles away from me. I don’t have the heart to tell him its because we matched like two months ago.

I forgot to mention, to some very attractive men I sent a gif of Joey saying How You Doin to spice it up a bit. This one did not disappoint.


I got an overwhelming amount of messages. I’m talking like over twenty men texting me. My stress levels were at an all time high trying to tell them apart. Most were incredibly boring and asked the standard “why are you on Tinder?” Conversations like that are why I do not talk to most men past day two.


I woke up to only six messages, which was frankly a relief. No man had unmatched me yet. Honestly I wanted some of them to so I could be free from my mistake. Alas, I must struggle on for the rest of the day.

*insert SpongeBob narrator voice* NINE HOURS LATER

My phone proceeded to go off at work all day with Tinder notifications. My dumbass forgot to screenshot my lock screen to show the madness. I mostly just got new men answering me finally or the men from the night before desperately trying to hold a conversation.

(This was not the honest answer)

The hardest part about this experiment is the random matches that kept appearing throughout the night and day that were not part of the experiment that tried to talk to me. This guy was the highlight of it. The first group of messages was sent in a five minute time frame.


So overall this was not a traumatizing experience like I thought it would be. All the men were either polite and seemed nice to talk to or they bored me. No super provocative messages were received. I lost no matches and gained three thirst follows on Instagram. I’d call that a win in the game of Tinder.